Ruth Clare

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No matter how big your challenges or how unlikely you dreams, where there is a will there is a way. Here you will find courage-building strategies, tools and resets to support you on your journey. 

Why the most at-risk children keep falling through the gaps

Growing up with no system of support I grew up with a PTSD-impacted father who was often violent, and a…
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Lest We Forget the Real Issues

As the child of a veteran, Remembrance Day holds special significance to me. On this day, I think of my…
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Why We Refuse to Ask the One Question That Could Actually Reduce Domestic Violence

There is a strange, persistent reluctance in the domestic violence sector to explore the most obvious question: What drives perpetrator…
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When Systems Perform Care Instead of Practicing It

An organisation that publicly champions lived experience once responded to a critique I raised by listing all the ways people…
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How the Dandelion Myth Silences Military Children

The Dandelion Myth Visit any Defence or veteran institution across the world and you will find variations of the same…
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The Burden Carried By Military Children is Still Being Missed

Despite growing awareness of the harm faced by many children growing up in military families, their experiences continue to be…
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Resources for children of veterans

You are not aloneKnowing that you aren’t alone in your story can be powerful. Seeing your experiences reflected in research,…
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How to Tolerate the Discomfort of Difficult Emotions

The Big Feelings Technique Most of us live our lives lost in our minds with little connection to our body.…
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Psychological safety from the inside out

Psychological safety = performancePsychological safety isn’t a nice-to-have. It’s a performance and health imperative. A psychologically safe culture allows people…
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The hidden benefits of childhood trauma

As someone who experienced a lot of adversity as a child, and who advocates for childhood trauma and its impacts…
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Living with complex PTSD

Complex PTSD is more than just a response to trauma. It’s a response to trauma that is repeated again and…
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The misunderstanding of ADHD and Complex PTSD

In recent years, awareness of both Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (c-PTSD) has grown rapidly. While…
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What happened when I disclosed

When I was 14, I told a teacher at my school that my dad had broken into our house, tried…
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The perils of perfectionism

No matter who you are, life is going to leave you with cracks and scars. But this doesn’t have to…
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How to help child victims of family violence

(From grand round speech I gave at the Melbourne Royal Children’s Hospital in 2017…) Today I am going to be…
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How to re-frame failure as part of success

The stories we tell ourselves when things don’t work out the way we hoped can stop us from dusting ourselves…
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How to be happy in 2025

I don’t know about you, but 2024 was certainly a “challenging” year for me. Don’t you just love those? I…
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How to build happiness using courage

Courage is the quality you need to transform the life you have into the life you want. It is an…
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Being the child of a veteran

“My dad’s conflict didn’t end when he left the battlefield. It continued on forever inside him, sending shockwaves into the…
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Successful businesses start with courageous leaders

Successful businesses start with courageous leaders

In an interview with Inc. Australia, Richard Branson said, “Being a good listener, finding empathy, understanding emotions, communicating effectively, treating…
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Visualising your courageous new future

Visualising your courageous new future

BACKGROUND: Visualisation, also known as mental rehearsal, involves creating vivid images or scenarios in your mind. You may think of…
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Why the things in your control are the only things to focus on

Why the things in your control are the only things to focus on

Most of us focus on what we can’t control Many of us spend an enormous amount of time ruminating on…
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Claiming back your power through archetypes

Claiming back your power through archetypes

The idea of archetypes might seem a bit left-field to some, which is not surprising. Jung was a pretty whacky…
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Why you only need 10 seconds of courage

Why you only need 10 seconds of courage

How will my life change if I act courageously for 10 seconds a day? Background: Courage is a practice You…
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When all else fails, at least there are memes

When all else fails, at least there are memes

Sometimes the best thing for your mental health is to have a laugh. Bonus points if you find a way…
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Your energy is your most precious resource

Your energy is your most precious resource

We all have to spend time in the company of people – family, work colleagues, people in our community –…
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9 things to remind yourself when you are going through a tough time

9 things to remind yourself when you are going through a tough time

Sometimes keeping your head above water and making it through the day takes every ounce of your energy. Now is…
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Change your beliefs, change your world

Change your beliefs, change your world

We often blame things beyond our control for our decisions, telling ourselves we can’t do something we want to do…
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What are adverse childhood experiences (ACEs)?

If you have had a crap childhood this material can feel confronting (At least it was for me the first…
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Shift out of your negative mindset

Shift out of your negative mindset

We all go through times in our life where we are facing difficulties that overwhelm us. I would never want…
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Ruth Clare is an author, TEDx speaker, and intergenerational trauma educator whose work breaks silences and drives system change, especially for military families.

Developer of the Parenting After Trauma (PAT) program, Ruth's award-winning memoir, Enemy, was published by Penguin in 2016. Her TEDx talk, The Pain of Hiding Your True Self, has been viewed more than 600,000 times.

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