Ruth Clare

Resources

Find articles, downloads and resources to help you understand the impacts of talks trauma, strategies for building mental health, and research and analysis on the impacts of the military on Defence families, informed by the lived experience of growing up as a child of a veteran. 

Trauma resources

Articles

We need to talk about class…

When I was told I was school captain when I was eleven years old, nobody…

What are adverse childhood experiences (ACEs)?

If you have had a crap childhood this material can feel confronting (At least it…

How to help child victims of family violence

(From grand round speech I gave at the Melbourne Royal Children’s Hospital in 2017…) Today…

What happened when I disclosed

When I was 14, I told a teacher at my school that my dad had…

The misunderstanding of ADHD and Complex PTSD

In recent years, awareness of both Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder…

Living with complex PTSD

Complex PTSD is more than just a response to trauma. It’s a response to trauma…

The hidden benefits of childhood trauma

As someone who experienced a lot of adversity as a child, and who advocates for…

Psychological safety from the inside out

Psychological safety = performancePsychological safety isn’t a nice-to-have. It’s a performance and health imperative. A…

Why We Refuse to Ask the One Question That Could Actually Reduce Domestic Violence

There is a strange, persistent reluctance in the domestic violence sector to explore the most…

Why the most at-risk children keep falling through the gaps

Growing up with no system of support I grew up with a PTSD-impacted father who…

Mental Health and Wellbeing Resources

Courage is taking up residence inside your own heart, listening to the wisdom you find there, honouring the truth you know from that place, and acting on the inspiration and urges of your most deeply felt knowing.

This Courageous Action Plan template will help you

  • tune into your heart
  • become clear on what you want
  • process the fear that is stopping you from acting
  • break down your goal into clear and manageable steps

 

 

What if you are allowed to ask for what you want, believe in yourself and live a a more authentic and purposeful life? 

A courageous life is yours for the taking.

These are your new rules...

 

 

 

 

 

 

Articles

How to build happiness using courage

Courage is the quality you need to transform the life you have into the life…

How to be happy in 2025

I don’t know about you, but 2024 was certainly a “challenging” year for me. Don’t…

The fundamentals of healing and growing

We all deserve medals for dealing with our issuesDealing with your issues takes courage and…

How to re-frame failure as part of success

The stories we tell ourselves when things don’t work out the way we hoped can…

Authenticity begins with honesty

Honesty is one of those things that many of us tend to avoid. Not because…

The perils of perfectionism

No matter who you are, life is going to leave you with cracks and scars.…

Dealing with your inner critic

We all have an inner critic. It’s the voice that tells us our work is…

How to Tolerate the Discomfort of Difficult Emotions

The Big Feelings Technique Most of us live our lives lost in our minds with…

How your body can help you contain stress and overwhelm

Most of us live our lives being pummelled by the never ending, unrelenting stream thoughts…

Shift out of your negative mindset

We all go through times in our life where we are facing difficulties that overwhelm…

Ruth Clare is an author, TEDx speaker, and intergenerational trauma educator whose work breaks silences and drives system change, especially for military families.

Developer of the Parenting After Trauma (PAT) program, Ruth's award-winning memoir, Enemy, was published by Penguin in 2016. Her TEDx talk, The Pain of Hiding Your True Self, has been viewed more than 600,000 times.