Your body holds the trauma. It also holds the map.
Beyond Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn is a science-backed roadmap to understanding your nervous system, releasing survival energy and finally feeling safe in your own skin.
I grew up in a home where nobody named what was happening — not the violence, not the fear, not what my father's military service did to our family. The need to break that silence, help others feel less alone, and drive system change to stop what happened to my family happening to others, has driven much of my career as an author, speaker, intergenerational trauma educator and military child advocate. My work is lived first, validated by years of deep listening to the experiences of others, and backed by research.
A story about the aftermath of war, told through the eyes of a military child, Enemy gives language to an experience that millions of veteran children across the world have lived but not spoken
Award-winning, academically cited, this heartbreaking true story of generational trauma has been described by readers as life-changing.
Fear isn't the enemy — it's untapped energy, if you know how to use it
Turn Fear into Courage is a practical, funny and encouraging companion to help you put your fear to work so you can build the life you want.
Your body holds the trauma. It also holds the map.
Beyond Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn is a science-backed roadmap to understanding your nervous system, releasing survival energy and finally feeling safe in your own skin.
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Ruth Clare is an author, TEDx speaker, and intergenerational trauma educator whose work breaks silences and drives system change, especially for military families.
Developer of the Parenting After Trauma (PAT) program, Ruth's award-winning memoir, Enemy, was published by Penguin in 2016. Her TEDx talk, The Pain of Hiding Your True Self, has been viewed more than 600,000 times.